𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗙𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗔𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗚𝗶𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗱
There is a quiet danger that follows gifted people everywhere they go.
Not pride. Not greed. Something subtler.
𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗮𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗺𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.
When a man is brilliant at one thing, people stop checking the rest. The exceptional engineer is assumed to be an exceptional husband. The founder who closed the round is assumed to have his soul in order. The one with scriptural utterance, who can open the Word until a room weeps, is assumed to be whole in private. The wealthy are assumed to be wise.
Nobody decides this. It just happens. The gift builds a fence, and the fence says: this one is fine.
And here is the tragedy. The gifted man eventually believes the fence too.
Scripture is honest about this in a way we rarely are.
Samson had strength no man alive could match. Everyone saw the lion torn, the gates carried, the thousand slain. Nobody asked about his appetite. The fence held until a woman found the gap, and the strongest man in Israel woke up blind and grinding grain.
Uzziah reigned fifty-two years. Built towers, raised an army, prospered until "he was strong." Then the text says, "when he was strong, his heart was lifted up to his destruction." 2 Chronicles 26:16. He walked into the Temple to burn incense, a thing no king was permitted, and walked out a leper. His strength was the fence. The surprise came from inside it.
Even Peter. Walked on water. Caught the revelation "thou art the Christ." Jesus looked at him and said, "Satan hath desired to have you." The disciple with the boldest gift had the least guarded heart, and he did not know it until a rooster crowed.
The natural world says the same thing.
Every few years a company that could not fail, fails. The engineering was flawless. The balance sheet was celebrated. And underneath, a culture nobody audited because the numbers were too good. The strength bought silence. The silence bought the collapse.
In medicine they call it the halo effect: competence in one area makes observers assume competence in all. In aviation they learned the hard way that senior pilots were crashing planes because junior officers wouldn't question them. Crew Resource Management exists because experience had become a fence.
𝗦𝗼 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗱𝗼?
It removes the questions. Nobody asks the gifted man how he is actually doing. They ask what he is building next.
It removes the correction. Who corrects the one everyone learns from?
It removes the mirror. Praise is a poor mirror. It shows you the gift and hides the man.
And then, years later, the surprise. The resignation. The affair. The breakdown. The quiet exit from the faith. Everyone says, "I never saw it coming." Nobody saw it because the fence was built precisely to stop people looking.
𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵.
Paul, with more revelation than any man alive, said of himself: "lest I should be exalted above measure, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh." 2 Corinthians 12:7. God built a gap in Paul's fence on purpose. A weakness he could not hide, so that he would never be assumed perfect, least of all by himself.
If you are gifted, you need a gap in the fence.
Someone who is not impressed by you. Someone with permission to ask about your marriage, your body, your prayer life, your money, and to be told the truth. David had Nathan. The king who could do no wrong had one man who could say, "Thou art the man."
Because your gift will never protect your heart. It will only hide it.
"Let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall." 1 Corinthians 10:12
The surprise down the line is never really a surprise. It is a fence, finally giving way.
Build the gap now, while you still choose where it goes.
#TheWholeMan #Faith #Leadership #Humility
There is a quiet danger that follows gifted people everywhere they go.
Not pride. Not greed. Something subtler.
𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗮𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗺𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.
When a man is brilliant at one thing, people stop checking the rest. The exceptional engineer is assumed to be an exceptional husband. The founder who closed the round is assumed to have his soul in order. The one with scriptural utterance, who can open the Word until a room weeps, is assumed to be whole in private. The wealthy are assumed to be wise.
Nobody decides this. It just happens. The gift builds a fence, and the fence says: this one is fine.
And here is the tragedy. The gifted man eventually believes the fence too.
Scripture is honest about this in a way we rarely are.
Samson had strength no man alive could match. Everyone saw the lion torn, the gates carried, the thousand slain. Nobody asked about his appetite. The fence held until a woman found the gap, and the strongest man in Israel woke up blind and grinding grain.
Uzziah reigned fifty-two years. Built towers, raised an army, prospered until "he was strong." Then the text says, "when he was strong, his heart was lifted up to his destruction." 2 Chronicles 26:16. He walked into the Temple to burn incense, a thing no king was permitted, and walked out a leper. His strength was the fence. The surprise came from inside it.
Even Peter. Walked on water. Caught the revelation "thou art the Christ." Jesus looked at him and said, "Satan hath desired to have you." The disciple with the boldest gift had the least guarded heart, and he did not know it until a rooster crowed.
The natural world says the same thing.
Every few years a company that could not fail, fails. The engineering was flawless. The balance sheet was celebrated. And underneath, a culture nobody audited because the numbers were too good. The strength bought silence. The silence bought the collapse.
In medicine they call it the halo effect: competence in one area makes observers assume competence in all. In aviation they learned the hard way that senior pilots were crashing planes because junior officers wouldn't question them. Crew Resource Management exists because experience had become a fence.
𝗦𝗼 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗱𝗼?
It removes the questions. Nobody asks the gifted man how he is actually doing. They ask what he is building next.
It removes the correction. Who corrects the one everyone learns from?
It removes the mirror. Praise is a poor mirror. It shows you the gift and hides the man.
And then, years later, the surprise. The resignation. The affair. The breakdown. The quiet exit from the faith. Everyone says, "I never saw it coming." Nobody saw it because the fence was built precisely to stop people looking.
𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵.
Paul, with more revelation than any man alive, said of himself: "lest I should be exalted above measure, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh." 2 Corinthians 12:7. God built a gap in Paul's fence on purpose. A weakness he could not hide, so that he would never be assumed perfect, least of all by himself.
If you are gifted, you need a gap in the fence.
Someone who is not impressed by you. Someone with permission to ask about your marriage, your body, your prayer life, your money, and to be told the truth. David had Nathan. The king who could do no wrong had one man who could say, "Thou art the man."
Because your gift will never protect your heart. It will only hide it.
"Let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall." 1 Corinthians 10:12
The surprise down the line is never really a surprise. It is a fence, finally giving way.
Build the gap now, while you still choose where it goes.
#TheWholeMan #Faith #Leadership #Humility
